People cannot even speak to their God in public; they need a private space ensuring that no one else is listening.
You are so scared to own your opinions because you are constantly afraid of being labeled as a fool. Like a little child who has the insecurity of being laughed upon, you face similar uncertainties in the form of inferiority complexes. Expressing emotions is becoming a taboo and being rigid is in fashion now. However, we all have a turmoil hidden under our controlled surfaces. We need to understand this, being able to ‘express yourself’ can be the solution to self-diagnosed depression and anxiety cases. How do we open ourselves to express our views?
It is very simple, a complete acceptance of yourself without any doubt. When you accept yourself completely only then, others can accept you. Face your fears first. Once you have accepted yourself, then you need to open your mind and talk to your close friends and family. Share your fears and fantasies with someone you trust. Carry meaningful conversations in your rendezvous. Instead of gossiping about someone who is unaffected by your existence, talk about your real concerns. When someone asks you, “how are you” have the courage to tell them the truth. On a personal note, I think I had a meaningful day in my life when my answer to “how are you” is an honest reflection of my real state.
Give a right direction to your energies.
Sometimes, you are probably scared of coming across as a negative complainer or cry baby in front of your folks. I can understand that! How about expressing your negative emotions with a hope of recovery?! Nobody hates hopeful stories. For instance, if you are having a bad day, go for a walk with someone you trust to address deep mind issues piling up on you. Let your ear listen to your own voice while you are telling others a story. Sometimes you feel better just by speaking about your heartache.
Remind yourself that everything is going to be alright.
Now on the other side of the table, if you are a listener, you should be willing to offer sincerity and respect in listening. Do not forget we all get our share of sorrows and happiness. If someone is going through a difficult time in their life, do not make their misery a fuel for your idol gossips. Try not to look down on the person who bares his or her soul in front of you. Without a doubt, it takes tremendous courage to bare your soul. If you want to keep a room for self-expression in your life; keep your friendships without any sort corruption.
We are all mirrors after-all. If you do not respect anyone, you will have a low self-esteem. If you cannot listen to someone sincerely, you will believe that people are not listening to you either. The World will give you generosity back but only if you are generous first. Remember the famous quote from Buddha “thoughts become things.” Thoughts will only become things if you acknowledge them and act on them. Therefore, you need to speak your mind.
Thoughts are Free
In the end, I would say, you should only sow what you would like to reap later. Offer your generosity to other’s views, and be open to sharing your opinion. Do not put your thoughts in a cage and leave them hanging over your head. Express yourself; do not suppress your mind because of fears. Speak your mind after discarding those borrowed words. You are better than you think, just start practicing an art of self-expression.
Love and Sunshine. Keep Feeling Buddhaful
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Jasz Gill is a contemporary writer, blogger, and poet who writes about emotional intelligence, Zen, mindfulness, self-love, and compassion. She started writing a blog with Rose Colored Glasses in 2010, a self-help blog to encourage individuals in their journey towards mindfulness. Jasz Gill is a simplicity blogger who loves turning big ideas into a practical wisdom.