Are you swinging between the extremes of ‘All or Nothing’ ?


The idea of perfection is over-rated. Having ‘All or Nothing’ mentality is setting you for an endless chaos of emotions. Labelling things in extreme such as success or failure takes away the perspective from a beautiful dimension; the journey itself. There is always a struggle hidden in every success and a lesson in every failure. Our strengths and weaknesses are two sides of the same coin. Ignoring the process in the blindness of result will leave us ungrateful and emotionally drained.

Happiness is the natural state of mind and unhappiness is a learned one. Sad but true, that we are constantly finding ways to be unhappy by bidding our emotions on the extremes. Every day, we are adopting new definitions of perfection in our lives showing our discontent towards the current situation. Our unreasonable expectations from life are leading us to a path away from our self. What happened to the idea of celebrating each achievement independently? How about detaching your mind from ‘all or nothing’ mentality and celebrate life.

Life is not about having a perfect moment; it is a series of imperfect moments flowing towards the infinity.

The comparison with the others is on rising with the social media. We are looking for a comfort food for our egos. It’s not fair to close your eyes towards the present and dream about future. Believing in the extremes is a mindset now; and therefore, we are becoming acceptable to the polarization of our attitudes and beliefs. Think about any recent political and religious question; don’t you already have a partial answer framed for it? Our polarized beliefs are creating walls around us, making it difficult to communicate and connect with others. Letting go of the extremes is the only way you can embrace the diversity of mind.  Everybody has positive and negative energies against them and within them.

Open your mind and accept both sides of your essence; light and darkness, sun and moon, wind and fire.




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Jasz Gill is a contemporary writer, blogger, and poet who writes about emotional intelligence, Zen, mindfulness, self-love, and compassion. She started writing a blog with Rose Colored Glasses in 2010, a self-help blog to encourage individuals in their journey towards mindfulness. Jasz Gill is a simplicity blogger who loves turning big ideas into a practical wisdom.

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