Suppressing Desires to ‘Fit-in’ is a Bad Idea

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Sometimes we feel tied up in the knots of demands and expectations of others. We lose our own desires and vision in the hope of gaining acceptance by others. The whole idea of “fitting in” can be so exhausting and is equal to life imprisonment. Certain behaviors are expected from us, and others define even our success and failure, how pitiful is that?! By suppressing our natural energy, we are forced to live a particular life. Our heart already knows what it wants, but the fear of becoming an outlier is stronger than our desires.

We see human machines walking around us looking at their watches always because they cannot afford to spend their own time luxuriously. We are running around, working so hard to gather resources so that we can afford materialistic luxuries, how about affording our own time?!

The real danger to our mind is suppressing our vitality, a volcano that is ready to erupt inside us and now is cracking our vision. The most ignored and disregarded essence in our world is our sub-conscious mind. We have dreams that were too high, and then we decided to dump them in the corner of our minds. There is a pile of them that influence our behavior from a dark side. Directly we might feel nothing, but indirectly, we are accumulating sources of stress, anger, and disappointments. Think about a failed romantic relationship which influences our behavior; we start building higher walls around our heart and guarding it with caution. If one experiences can influence our response to this extent, what about our continuous denial and suppression of our natural energy.

All that stress and anger we feel are coming from that dark corner of our suppressed thoughts. Suppressing feelings is dangerous; it is dangerous to keep all those inhibitions in our minds. The longer we suppress, the possibility of catastrophe becomes higher. This suppression of thoughts can drive us to the point of insanity, where we cannot control them, but they control us.

Giving some time to better understand our mind. Making a promise to our heart that we will always be available to listen when he speaks.

Love and Sunshine from Feeling Buddhaful

20 Replies to “Suppressing Desires to ‘Fit-in’ is a Bad Idea”

  1. Excellent advice. Read this when I really needed to. Thank you

  2. In high school, i tried so hard to get along with so called “COOL” group that it became a useless habit. I am now developing a conscious habit of not to suppress my opinion. I speak up when I need to. Thanks for posting yet another wonderful article. Love and Sunshine to Jasz Gill.

  3. What a wonderful post. I’ve been practicing this today during my meditation and find it to be very helpful, thanks so much for sharing. I wish letting go of certain people–mainly manipulative family members– were that easy.

  4. I like your approach to this matter, people are growing their insensitivities like hell these days.

  5. Iyego zasajen says: Reply

    Good article.

  6. I am in love with this article. It is encouraging. Thank you

  7. Robt Cornetta says: Reply

    Keep writing good stuff!

  8. Impressive. You should elaborate more on this topic.

  9. Nice Post. It may not be completely pleasant to accept and express emotions, but it is who we are as human beings.

  10. Excellent. I feel the need to give you a suggestion. I hope take it in a positive way. You need to be more elaborative in explaining these issues.

  11. Maybe you are just going through life, feeling bored and disconnected.YOu need to channel your energy in a good way. I just wanted to add my points.

  12. Stick to the positive emotions first. If you feel it is all too much, then seek professional

  13. I found this article is awesome. We are doing this on daily basis.

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