What Can Give You A Real Sense of Completion


This article is a response to an enchanting email received from a reader on November 9th. In her email, she was kind with her words towards the blog Feeling Buddhaful. In the end, she asked me an intriguing question, “Where can I find a real sense of completion.”  I thought about this question for few days, and after analyzing all the surface possibilities that can make us feel complete, my concluding answer is ‘nothing external.’

People who think they need someone else to make them feel complete, they will remain incomplete forever.  Anyone who makes you feel complete has the power to leave you incomplete. You can keep circling in the endless cycle of seeking companions, who can provide you with world’s beautiful feelings from love to friendship but not fulfillment. Nobody else in this world can fulfill your being. Firstly, stop seeking completion or fulfillment in others.

The missing piece of the self-completion puzzle is YOU

Now that you have crossed off other options from your list of self-fulfillment. The compass is pointing towards one direction – You. Another question arises, how can you achieve self-fulfillment or sense of completion with yourself?! The answer to this puzzle is very simple in theory, but it will require pragmatic lifetime efforts from your end.

The Answer is Self-Actualization

Self-Actualization is about understanding your potential and utilizing it to fulfill your being. For example, if you like painting beautiful portraits, the act of painting will make you complete. Same goes for music, cooking, reading, singing, writing and the list goes on. Self-Actualization is the top need of humankind which begins once basic necessities are met. Remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs pyramid starting from food, shelter, safety, sense of belongingness and then comes self-actualization.

Self-actualization is a drive to make your identity whole.

Realizing your potential and utilizing it completely will give you the real sense of completion. If you are seeking self-fulfillment, be the boss of your life. Fulfill Yourself and Feel Alive; Feel Alive and Fulfill Yourself

Keep Feeling Buddhaful.

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Jasz Gill is a contemporary writer and poet who writes about emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and compassion. She started writing a blog with Rose Colored Glasses in 2010, a self-help blog to encourage individuals in their journey towards mindfulness. Her writing style is based on turning big ideas into practical wisdom.

10 Comment

  1. Andrea Hudson says: Reply

    This article has raised a very inspiring point. More power to you!

  2. Kate says: Reply

    This was a great post! I’ve experienced this whole thing many times over. Your suggestions are realistic. Thank you! xo

  3. Tom Baxter says: Reply

    GREAT post!! Thank you for sharing your wisdom! I really appreciated this as I am working through the same “stuff” 🙂

  4. lola says: Reply

    Spot on! Fantastic article brother, thank you

  5. Kelli Cooper says: Reply

    I really loved this post, and I totally related. Around that same age, I quit my corporate job to go teach English in Japan. I was experiencing that similar sense of unrest, not feeling happy and what have you. Many people look at decisions like that as ‘running away’ and maybe it is to some degree, but I really don’t think that is such a bad thing. Those bold moves can really shake things up in a good way.

    Your point about wherever you go, there you are, is a great one and something for people to keep in mind when they make changes to their outside experience in hopes it will change something within. It surely can in many profound ways, but ultimately, the heavier ‘stuff’ will stick around and we have to find ways to tackle that directly.

    Thank you for sharing your experience..I think a lot of people will be able to relate to it.

  6. K. Nicole says: Reply

    I too can relate to your story…throughout my life I have always run to the external (jobs, houses, travel, relationships….) only to find myself (after the novelty of the new) feeling the same lost, lonely, confused child that is hidden under all the thoughts and activity. What I have learned is that due to our experiences in childhood we carry emotional memories and attach beliefs and behaviours to these early experiences…when we stop ‘doing’ after exhausting all options, we are left with that anxiety/depression which is that child’s fear, that sense of no support and belonging and ultimately, a sense of not believing we deserve joy and happiness.

  7. Paola says: Reply

    I compare the time in your 20s to the next stage past being a teenager. Many of the same personality traits can carry over – too much time inside your own head, thinking the world revolves around you, or having so many career or life choices you get overwhelmed and immobilized.

    Spending time in service of others can certainly help with the transition to true maturity and adulthood. Often, I think, we can become immobilized and lost when we are not living in the moment or with enough gratitude.

  8. Katya says: Reply

    Amazing post. I am debating if I should volunteer abroad this summer. I am feeling lost and unsure of my purpose or even passions for that matter. I am glad to see there is a way forward and you’ve accomplished it. What books did you read? Any other tips for us lost wandering souls? 🙂

  9. Kris says: Reply

    Brilliant Read

  10. Vipun says: Reply

    I have no idea what you have said may be I am still caught at the bottom level of pyramid. Help

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