This article is a response to an enchanting email received from a reader on November 9th. In her email, she was kind with her words towards the blog Feeling Buddhaful. In the end, she asked me an intriguing question, “Where can I find a real sense of completion.” I thought about this question for few days, and after analyzing all the surface possibilities that can make us feel complete, my concluding answer is ‘nothing external.’
People who think they need someone else to make them feel complete, they will remain incomplete forever. Anyone who makes you feel complete has the power to leave you incomplete. You can keep circling in the endless cycle of seeking companions, who can provide you with world’s beautiful feelings from love to friendship but not fulfillment. Nobody else in this world can fulfill your being. Firstly, stop seeking completion or fulfillment in others.
The missing piece of the self-completion puzzle is YOU
Now that you have crossed off other options from your list of self-fulfillment. The compass is pointing towards one direction – You. Another question arises, how can you achieve self-fulfillment or sense of completion with yourself?! The answer to this puzzle is very simple in theory, but it will require pragmatic lifetime efforts from your end.
The Answer is Self-Actualization
Self-Actualization is about understanding your potential and utilizing it to fulfill your being. For example, if you like painting beautiful portraits, the act of painting will make you complete. Same goes for music, cooking, reading, singing, writing and the list goes on. Self-Actualization is the top need of humankind which begins once basic necessities are met. Remember Maslow’s hierarchy of needs pyramid starting from food, shelter, safety, sense of belongingness and then comes self-actualization.
Self-actualization is a drive to make your identity whole.
Realizing your potential and utilizing it completely will give you the real sense of completion. If you are seeking self-fulfillment, be the boss of your life. Fulfill Yourself and Feel Alive; Feel Alive and Fulfill Yourself
Keep Feeling Buddhaful.