Alright, today’s post is going to get heat from “Yes Man” movie fans. Still, I would suggest you read the post before making a remark. Have you been stuck in a situation where you want to say 100% ‘No’ but you are pushed to say “Yes” to please others? Alright, once in a while it can be okay let’s say if it is someone’s birthday and they want you to have a piece of cake. However, developing a habit of signing yourself up for an unpleasant No(s) series is a distressing situation. You need to break this habit before you start to keep suppressing your energy and ignoring yourself. You can not be just a people pleaser all your life. Listen to your heart and follow your intuition.
I hear you; Saying no can be tough.
Forget about your friends; sometimes you cannot even say no to a super-pushy salesperson. Let me make this process a little easy for you. First of all, have a clear intention. Second, think about the reason you are saying no for. I bet it is not because you want to make other person feel bad, but it is your own different perspective. Then understand that word, ‘no’ is not a negative word. For example; if you are sick, you can rest and skip that party you are currently feeling obligated to attend. You can be honest and tell other people about your situation. Do not suppress yourself to please others. If you mean ‘no,’ then you should say ‘no.’ If you are unsure, take some time before making the decision. Do not rush to say yes under peer pressure especially in regards to life changing decisions such as marriage.
Recently, I heard a sad story from an old friend who said ‘Yes’ to an arranged marriage just because she was turning 30. A little background, 30 in Indian culture is a very high number of wedding standards. As per some individuals, crossing the age mark of 30 can lead to disastrous possibilities such as ‘Not ever being married’ or ‘Forever alone because all your friends are married’ or Never be able to reproduce babies’ or another one ‘Supply of well suitable men on the market is scarce.’ Back to the story of my friend who said yes because she had no courage to say no, is she happy now? Unfortunately, the answer is no. Now she stuck with an unhappy marriage and regretting her decision of giving up on her further studies. A sad situation.
Another problem is of my friend who feels obligated to smoke a cigarette during his lunch break because of peer pressure. Many people blame their habit of alcohol and drugs on peer pressure. Imagine if these people can simply learn to say ‘No.’
Avoid these situations, take control of your life, have a clear conscious and understand your thoughts or just simply follow your heart.
So how about a ‘No’ today?!