A Bagful of Should and Should Not

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At any given moment, we are full of doubts and standing at the crossroads of should or should not. There is a massive burden of expectations on our shoulders. Society is built on the concept of ‘should and should not’. Many characters throughout our life preach us how to live, love and even pray. Life has just become a strange struggle from crib to grave. Have you ever thought of shrugging off those expectations from your shoulder just to see what will happen?! There is an unknown third person’s voice in your head continuously yelling at you to keep going up, reaching the top and running faster.  However, there is no top but an endless restlessness because you are caught in the middle of ‘expectations’ imposed by others.

Because of these ‘should’ dictated by others, you are scared of baring your real character. You are worried about everyone’s views about you. And you are terribly struggling to please everyone.

Your behavior is dictated by other’s expectations.

Pause for a moment and think. Can you name a person from the present or history who was able to please the whole world? Can you think of anyone who was able to build the castle of his dream on the foundation of other’s ‘should or should not.” If you have your own dreams to chase, you will have to break these invisible chains. You need to get rid of that weight on your shoulders. Anything which is weighing you down, you need to drop it. It is time to lighten up. Furthermore, it is time live your life out of that box. There is a very inspiring quote from Bruce Lee, “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

You have many mountains waiting for you, but first get rid of that unnecessary burden from your shoulder; burden of other’s ‘should and should not.’


Love and Sunshine. Keep Feeling Buddhaful.

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Jasz Gill is a contemporary writer and poet who writes about emotional intelligence, mindfulness, and compassion. She started writing a blog with Rose Colored Glasses in 2010, a self-help blog to encourage individuals in their journey towards mindfulness. Her writing style is based on turning big ideas into practical wisdom.

7 Comment

  1. Ashmit Chauhan says: Reply

    This is a great topic which will require layers of elaboration. I hope to see more posts on this topic.

  2. Kiran says: Reply

    Brilliant post and title! On point

  3. Akansha says: Reply

    Your article has made me think about issues that I normally deny. This was my weakness but now I have started working on it foe better, to be on my own forever. Thank you for doing such an amazing job!

  4. Debrah says: Reply

    You got me with this post of yours @jaszgill. It is hard to put this theory into practice. Sometimes your sensitivity comes in your way when you are tryin to climb higher..from my point of view, in order to keep going up you have to put an end to emotional drama.

    Thank you posting a magical post like this. I am feeling buddhaful today.

  5. Lee says: Reply

    This is a good article but I agree that it requires more elaboration on how to unburden your shoulders…may be you can write more about it. Overall I enjoy this blog you should keep writing. Ooops did I say ‘should’ ?

  6. Leo Sander says: Reply

    Obligations and Have to bring misery to life.

  7. Adeline Scribner says: Reply

    Lovely Post

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